http://www.guytrap.com/bp/ GuyTrap--the Gay Attraction, Sex and Love Forum » Recent Topics en Wed, 08 Sep 2010 09:22:08 +0000 http://www.guytrap.com/bp/topic.php?id=171#post-1505 Sat, 22 Mar 2008 15:50:12 +0000 standardsoil 1505@http://www.guytrap.com/bp/ to amonmin, if you want you could confront him about this and tell him to quit playing games with you. Or you could just ignore it. Whatever you do, don't get your hopes up, because this guy is just playing with you.<br /> <br /> Consider how nice it feels to know that someone is attracted to you, or to flirt with someone and have them show interest. . . I think this guy is in it for the confidence boost, not because he likes you. He's got a girlfriend, and he's having sex with her (and telling you about it)! Doesn't sound like someone you should waste your heartstrings on. http://www.guytrap.com/bp/topic.php?id=491#post-1909 Tue, 31 Aug 2010 17:54:31 +0000 sleepmode 1909@http://www.guytrap.com/bp/ <p>Ok. I've been reading a lot in the forums, some of them were helpful and some of them not. So I'll write my own. To get the picture, I'll write the longer version.</p> <p>For years I've been attracted to both guys and girls, mostly guys. But I never fell in love with a guy, until the fall of 2007 when I started high school. Now this one hit me like a big yellow school bus. He had the perfect looks, the absolute perfect body and he's voice is the sexiest voice I've heard yet. I want to point out that I recently came out of the closet to my closest friends an family.</p> <p>The first year I tried to be friends with him, invite him to partys and hang out with him. He didn't seem interested at all. The second year things started happening. I caught him looking at me (and he'd always act like he'd never looked at me), he smiled at me, and he was almost always nervous whenever I was around. He would come up with reasons to talk (or write) to me. Once he even grabbed my crotch! Yes, I'll tell you :)</p> <p>I went in to our class room, looking for a class mate. He and some girl was in that almost empty class room, but they weren't talking. The girl left the room, and we were alone. I asked "Have you seen ______?". He approached me (to leave the room) and grabbed my crotch. He had this smile that I've never seen before. He answered "No, I haven't seen him", and walked away still smiling. I was standing there i chock thinking "Did this just happen?".</p> <p>He texted me once, downtown. The text said "I see you". A little creepy i guess, but still, it was him! Once he actually came to my party and I kissed him on the cheek. He was really nervous and laughed. He forgot his bag at that party. He wrote to me the next day asking for it, and I answered that I would bring it to school the next day. He said "Are you sure? It wont be to heavy for you?" and I said "Yes I'm sure, don't worry". An hour later he insisted to come buy and pick the bag up. And he was smiling and a little flirty the whole time. The bag contained a hair gel and two pens. So I'm thinking he came buy just to see me, and used the bag as an excuse. Maybe he even left it there on purpose to have a reason to come buy, I'm not sure.<br /> The weirdest thing in all of this, is that he's always "busy" whenever I ask him to hang out with me. Although, I've only asked him 2-3 times, maybe he really was busy? And the three years I've known him, he's really shown interest in one way or another, bit he has never asked me to hang out with him.</p> <p>What should I do? I'm really confused.</p> <p>Thanks! </p> http://www.guytrap.com/bp/topic.php?id=29#post-987 Thu, 03 May 2007 02:54:08 +0000 sazji 987@http://www.guytrap.com/bp/ If you don't have the balls to do it, then I think the real answer is to do what it takes to have the balls to do it. Trying to do it with &quot;veiled insults&quot; or any other &quot;formula&quot; will not make up for simply being comfortable talking to someone you are attracted to. That's the real issue - coming off as comfortable and confident, and genuine. Nothing will substitute for that except comfort, confidence and genuineness. (Unless the guy you are after is a complete game-player too - then maybe you deserve each other!) :P But if you are comfortable, it will make the other person (if he's interested) more comfortable with you too, possibly more interested. And then you can relax and let it happen. A friend of mine said something once that was really right on I think: &quot;Guys are guys...if it's gonna happen, it will happen and you don't need to force it!&quot; http://www.guytrap.com/bp/topic.php?id=484#post-1897 Wed, 21 Jul 2010 14:54:40 +0000 the_cause 1897@http://www.guytrap.com/bp/ <p>So here I am, a pretty young looking guy. When I first went out on the scene, I was reputed for my young fresh out of high school look, and that got me attention. Now the hand's of time are working (trying to anyway) and I feel the pressure of trying to look young so guy's find me attractive. Im 25 and I pass on as 20, okay that's fine I guess.. but what happen's in another five years? I'm kind of scared and freaking out.</p> <p>I know what gay guy's want, and im scared of not being the cute young guy that everybody want's...</p> <p>I feel like im getting close to my experiation date and I'll be old news in no time, god I wish I could go back in time and start again. </p> http://www.guytrap.com/bp/topic.php?id=490#post-1905 Thu, 19 Aug 2010 18:29:41 +0000 curious1 1905@http://www.guytrap.com/bp/ <p>I am totally new to all this and would not consider myself 100% gay seeing how i like sex with women as well. However i am curious to know what it feels like to get it in the ass and have someone cum in your ass? </p> http://www.guytrap.com/bp/topic.php?id=489#post-1904 Thu, 19 Aug 2010 07:58:05 +0000 conarc7220 1904@http://www.guytrap.com/bp/ <p>Just got a mid-range TENS unit. Need to experiment on myself before using it on someone else. Has dual isolated channels and you can adjust amplitude (0-100 ma into 500 ohm each channel), pluse rate (2 to 150Hz), and pulse width (50 to 300 microseconds). It has several modes. Burst Mode: adjustable rate and width fixed, 100hz frequency but I swear the rate/frequency adjustment still worked. Maybe error in manual as rate and frequency seem same to me? Normal: continuous with adjustable rate and width. continues and adjustable rate seems conflicting? Modulation mode: it cycles through 50% and 100% width and rate. SD1/SD2 - Strength-Duration intensity increases while duration decreases - ouch, like getting pricked with a needle.</p> <p>I've experimented three times. Have two unipolar adjustable cock straps (the blue ones) and to save money I found an idea to just put two strips of 1/4" copper tape up each side of my Aneros prostate stimulator (white plastic thing) and then some tabs of copper to use alligator clips. Here's what I've tried so far and the results:</p> <p>Cock straps, one at base of shaft above balls and one just under head. Used mostly burst mode. Felt pretty good when I got the setting right but found that had to keep inching the power up every minute or two. Not enough/type of stim to stay hard though. Probably should try normal mode more?</p> <p>Aneros in with one lead connected and one strap below head. When setting was enough to stimulate penis without pain, there was no feeling of stimulation in the butt. Played with settings, didn't find a sweet spot.</p> <p>Both leads hooked up to aneros, nothing on penis (I have to get a 2mm to 4mm adpater to use both channels (all 4 leads) at the same time). Was hoping for anus muscle contractions, but just got a sharp sensation deeper in ass. I tried shortening the tape so it only went up about an inch on each side but that didn't seem to help.</p> <p>I suspect of course I just need more experimentation. Haven't used the gel pads except on my forearm initially to get a feel for how strong/sensitive the device was.</p> <p>I think overall the thing I'm a little dissapointed with is that I was hoping for sensations to be more along the pathway but it seems they are just at the two points of the contacts that are closest to each other. Maybe one of those cock sheaths with metal nubs all up it would do better? Once I get the adapter, I'm thinking there must be a way to have the prostate plug in and send the current to both cockrings?</p> <p>If you have any suggestions to try, I'd greatly appreciate it! </p> http://www.guytrap.com/bp/topic.php?id=459#post-1831 Sat, 30 May 2009 09:43:44 +0000 neovincci 1831@http://www.guytrap.com/bp/ <p>This is the first time this has happened to me, hence my indecision.</p> <p>I've been chatting online with a guy for several days that lives in my city but was out of town at the time. After about three days of getting to know one another, and as he was getting ready to fly back home, he gave me his phone number and told me to text him my name if I wanted to use it. I did, because I was interested in him. The thing is, we've never met, and it seems weird to me to call someone I have never met face to face. Is this just something I should get over or should I wait until we've made physical contact?</p> <p>Thanks for any advice! </p> http://www.guytrap.com/bp/topic.php?id=488#post-1901 Wed, 11 Aug 2010 23:27:05 +0000 NakedCity 1901@http://www.guytrap.com/bp/ <p>So a while ago I did the craziest, most tawdry thing I’ve ever done. And now I simply need to get it off my chest. You have a long exciting post ahead so hold on: </p> <p>So I meet this guy at one of the gayest places on earth; Disneyland. He’s smart, bookishly handsome, and lives pretty close to where I’m at. For me it was one of those moments that seemed too exciting to be true, and at the time it was. I was just in the tail end of a relationship, gearing up for a breakup and I wasn’t too sure that this boy (lets just call him Disney boy) was out of the closet. So I waited for my relationship to end to start (gently) flirting with this guy.</p> <p>A few weeks after my breakup he and I became good friends. Just as we became close,<br /> (Lets call him ‘Felix’,) swoops in to tell me that he’s Disney Boy’ boyfriend. This wouldn’t mean anything if 1) I didn’t know Felix personally and 2) If he hadn’t known Disney Boy for as long as I’ve known him, which was only about two and a half weeks. Well, since I know Felix, I know that he can be more than desperate when it comes to dating. So I hoped the reality was that he and Disney Boy were only casually seeing each other. I soon confronted Disney Boy about this and he told me that the relationship wasn’t clearly defined. And as long as Disney Boy assured me that things were in fact casual, I flirted, charmed and gushed over Disney Boy unashamedly; and he returned the favor. </p> <p>When we spent seven hours together just talking one night, I believed that I was really going somewhere with this guy. And then he left his phone behind. With only 20% of charge left, I promptly began snooping. I found a conversation with his friend and another with Felix. I shouldn’t have gone through Disney Boy’s phone because after I was done I realized that I was being played. Truth be told I don’t mind playing games, as long as I’m the chief player. It appeared that things were serious with Felix. </p> <p>The following day he comes over to pick up his phone, with Felix. This was a good day if only the fact that I was looking really hot, and that was the first thing he noticed. In his words I was looking “Rico Suave,” from there I neged him and generally tormented him while giving Felix all the attention. I also let it slip that I was meeting a hot beach bum later. </p> <p>A few days go by and I decide to call Disney Boy. My intention was purely to throw him off. I call him and immediately start to shamelessly tease and neg. I asked him about the outings that he had invited me to but also mentioned another guy I was interested in. My game was on hyper bitch mode as I said things like “I’m excited about this guy because he doesn’t play games.” and “He’s genuinely a nice guy.” But the best part was half jokingly telling Disney Boy to “shut up! I’ll I can hear is sassy mumbling” due to his tendency to mumble sentences. Well my plan worked because he called me the next day well before I was even awake to “see how my night was.”</p> <p>Well we make plans to go out. Unfortunately his boyfriend joins. We all have a great time, I get a few numbers I never had any intention of calling, he gets his drink on, and his boyfriend watches. We decide to go back to his place to watch a movie and have a few more drinks….before we have to sober up. </p> <p>Disney Boy and I are thoroughly drunk, while Felix retains his composure. I insist on watching a Patrick Wilson movie because he is so good looking but despite Patrick Wilson, no one is watching the TV. Disney Boy was becoming very very friendly and well, we kiss. From behind I can hear Felix say, “Oh that’s so hot!” which marks the beginning of our drunken three-way. </p> <p>The next morning Felix leaves for work (probably not hung over). So I was left alone with Disney Boy, this is were things truly get hairy. Our feelings for and about each other were pretty much displayed the past evening. We were literally and figuratively shall I say, naked. I asked him to tell me what Felix is to him and Disney Boy professed that they were in an exclusive relationship. In that moment I was like, “What the Fuck? We just had a threesome!” But I didn’t realize that some couples view threesomes are sharing sex and that as long as one person doesn’t meet people secretly the relationship is pretty much safe. Not knowing this and very incapable of ignoring my desires, I kissed Disney Boy. And for the record Disney Boy didn’t push me off, only embraced the chemistry. He told me between kisses “when Felix finds out it this will be bad.” Unfortunately, I was too busy to listen and we made out until Felix found us. </p> <p>So quickly the excitement, the romance, the naughtiness ended and the consequence of our actions set in. I gathered my things and left, feeling shitty about my chances with Disney Boy but also feeling like a horrible person for doing that to Felix. The first thing he asked Disney Boy after he found us was if he was breaking up with him. That to me was the saddest part. And for me I knew that if I had only been patient, Felix would have screwed up on his own. But that’s not what happened. </p> <p>So now I’m left with an experience that I know I don’t want to happen again. I hope this post wasn’t too long for you. I just needed to get this off my chest. For me the embarrassing thing wasn’t the head games or the three-way, it was the sex behind Felix’s back that makes me feel bad. </p> http://www.guytrap.com/bp/topic.php?id=487#post-1900 Fri, 06 Aug 2010 06:22:53 +0000 esmith 1900@http://www.guytrap.com/bp/ <p>New to the gay thing and was wondering if meeting people up casual or regular sex is really the thing to do.I know there are certain precautions to carry out ie always get a face pic,talk on the phone to get an idea ofthe persons intent via their tone of voice,ask the important relavent questions,meet in a crowded public place during the day and of course ALWAYS use a condom but Idlike to know whether its something I should pursue from people with experience in this area and if(thats a big IF)so what other tips do you advise. </p> http://www.guytrap.com/bp/topic.php?id=486#post-1899 Fri, 30 Jul 2010 04:45:58 +0000 greeklove 1899@http://www.guytrap.com/bp/ <p>Hey guys, i desperately need some good advice, since i'm mad about a guy and i can't read his actual intentions. First of all, I'm Italian, while he's Turkish and he's staying here in my town until october, doing a sort of training in some field of engineering. We met in a chat room two weeks ago, we chatted a bit and we showed ourselves on cam (don't think anything filthy, we just saw each other's face): when i saw his face my breath was taken away. He's not handsome the way beauty's generally conceived by people, but his eyes and clean face captured me since the very first moment. He'd been here for only three weeks and din't know anybody in como, either straight or gay. He told me he'd never had sex before (only mutual jerking with a friend, but he was drunk), although he had some chances, and he wasn't looking for sex. That struck me with a very positive impression, coz he's 21 yo and he's the kind of guy people (both girls and gay guys) would have no doubt about going to bed with. That meant he was a serious guy, someone who knows what he wants and wouldn't come to any compromise. All the gay people i'd known before were all so anxious to f... (can i write that?) me everywhere. I'm kinda platonic guy, so you shouldn't be surprised by my enthusiasm at his declaration of chaste interest into friendship. By the way, all my sexual experiences were so disappointing i'm not into sex at the moment. </p> <p>We planned to meet after chatting for two hours, but i was uncertain whether he was interested in me or he just felt lonely and would meet anyone. He told me he met some Turkish guys flying with him to Italy but they're staying in Milan and he goes there in the weekend to spend those days with them. Anyway I met him and I felt so good walking and chatting with him around the city. He seems so self-confident and determined, we're so different and I'm still wondering why he keeps on coming out with me, coz I just don't feel to be his type. This is the point. I'll spare the details, just know that Monday night, after leaving him and coming back home, thinking of the time we'd spent together, I realised I'd gotten a crush on him. A BIG crush. It never happened to me to feel such emotions about another guy. At this point you need to know i'm bi, and the only time i fell in love, in all my life, was with a girl. I always knew guys also attracted me but I always thought it was only physical attraction, sorta caprice. After that girl definitely broke my heart, months ago, I didn't feel like chasing girls anymore, at least for some time, and I turned to guys, willing the explore my gay side. I had some experiences, but it was only sex and I was disgusted with myself. Now there's this guy I can't help drooling over, not in a sexual way, or better not only in a sexual way. I'm filled up with passion roaring inside of me and i keep dreaming of him, imagining the two of us embraced, kissing and caressing each other in his bed. Just yesterday night, i'd planned to get physically closer to him, so as to make my interest clear. He'd also been provocative before: the last time we chatted he told me he was lying in his bed, he invited me to get there with him. I pretended to be lightly shocked and he said he was just kidding and we'll be but good friends. Yesterday night he asked me about my sex experiences with guys, and showed me the keys of his room, inviting me to join him there again. He also provoked me offering me hospitality if ever need a place to have sex with a guy. Then he added he wouldn't join us, appearingly to reassure me. Is it possible he hasn't understood I'm interested in him? Maybe he's only playing with me in a sadistic way. You may wonder whether I tried to approach him. I din't, and why? Because he started telling me about this guy he's dating and he feels attracted to. He told me he prefers older guys and this one's 35-40 yo. He told me he doesn't want to have sex with him in any case. But this man keeps phoning him asking where he is and he's so jealous of him, after they met just once!!! He can't stand my friend dates other gay/bi guys besides him. Fortunately he's leaving for a journey tomorrow and he won't come back before the second half of august. I don't understand what he's up to, but he's acting as if he was the one who rules and it feels so uncomfortable for me. Actually I can't even understand why I'm so attracted to him, since he's the kind of person who'd generally give me nerves. But I can't stand he's dating other guys and could do anything with them (even though I doubt about it). I'm afraid I could shock him revealing my real intentions, but I don't wanna let him go back to his country without having any chance with him. What can I do? I don't know whether he feels the same about me (honestly i don't think so) but I think we've just met, so there's a good chance I could make him feel the same for me. It all depends on my behavior and right strategies. What can I do? I'm so desperately mad about him... </p>