Hi everyone, first time posting here. Let me give a brief description of myself. I'm 20 years old, openly gay and always have been. I'm 5'10 145 lbs, brown hair blue eyes. I wouldn't say I'm "confident" but I'm definitely not looking down on myself.

I'm looking for assistance in both where to meet guys, and how to meet guys. I don't mind random hook-ups but I really prefer actually meeting a guy to date and spend time with. I've tried clubs, bars, malls, Bed Bath and Beyond, restaurants, everywhere I can possibly go that has a social setting, I go. On the rare chance I see a gay guy who's cute and catches my eyes. One of two things happens, his boyfriend walks around the corner behind him, or I look down and away. I don't what to say or do to talk to a guy and how to present myself as confident.

I don't really have a lot of good conversation because I'm from the small country parts of Texas and just moved to Dallas, which means my geeky computer-self and them have two different interests. The only time I'm able to really let go and talk without caring is if I've been drinking or I can down a drink when I get really nervous.

I'm really struggling to meet people - like I said both because I don't know where to look, and I don't know what to say when someone catches my eyes. I've met a guy at work I really like(completely different departments and areas of the building, our work is in no way tied together) and we've spent several nights together but nothing more then cuddling on the bed and going to sleep after we got drunk has happened. Sometimes I text him and never get a reply and most nights I go over I had to beg for him to hang out. And I also recently spoke to another guy I met online, after 2 days of chatting and really seeming to hit it off well he just stopped texting for 3 days, finally annoyed at his avoidance I called from a friend's phone and he just said, "I lost interest".

How do I help keep a guy interested? What are things I can do to further my attractiveness towards other guys to make the "initial contact"(He!! even finding them) easier? Thanks for all your help and reading this LONG mess!

Ha, you're not really that much of a "LONG mess," you're just going through the same things we all go through.

To answer your questions, on how to keep a guy interested, give yourself some distance between yourself and any guys you meet; add a bit of mystery and make them come back to you. Going and begging a guy to hang out or calling from a friends phone a guy you hardly know comes across as a little needy at best (and slightly stalker-ish at worst.) If you and another guy hit it off, you don't have to be in contact everyday to still be interested in one another. It sounds like you might be smothering them and that comes off as really unattractive.

You said you just moved to Dallas so why don't you try to build a social network of friends first and then have them introduce you to guys later. Dating guys in a new city may take some time.